‘Liar, Liar,’ How Often The Average Person Lies
We may hope that our interactions will be open and honest. But often, conversations can be sprinkled with lies. It’s something we often see from prominent public figures to friends and family. But how often does the average person lie?
In many research studies, they typically ask people to disclose their own lying activity, usually within a recent timeframe such as a day or week. But trusting liars to spill the truth about their lying habits? Well, that alone can lead to some inaccuracies.
Understanding The Practice of Lying
A psychologist, Bella DePaulo, did a study on how often people lie. It looked at how much lying happened when people talked in person. She studied two groups: students and community volunteers near the University of Virginia. The community members told about one lie each day, while the students told about two lies each day.
In 2002, a study performed by psychologist Robert Feldman at the University of Massachusetts found that 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation, telling an average of two to three lies.
Psychology Today reported that children pick up lying behavior between the ages of two and five, and it is seen by some psychologists as a milestone of cognitive growth. Lots of lies are no big deal and are just said to avoid conflict or cheer someone up. But other lies, like wrongly accusing someone of a crime or lying to investors, can really pack on some consequences.
How Often Does the Average Person Lie?
According to Cross River Therapy, the average person lies four times in one day, totaling 1,460 lies each year. They also mentioned that men lie about six times a day on average. Meanwhile, women lie three times a day on average.
Take a look at some more interesting facts about lying here.
These Are the Most Common Reasons People End a Relationship
They can't be friends, in addition to lovers
According to Heysigmund.com, “Studies have shown that the love and passion that comes with the initial boost of marriage wears off after two years, which is why the best relationships are the ones that have genuine friendship at their core.” It makes sense. You can’t just be physically attracted to your partner. You have to actually like them as a person, too, and enjoy their company. You have to be friends, too.
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There's a lack of respect
This is a big one. Bestlifeonline.com notes that, “…if one partner has a blatant disrespect for the other’s life choices, neither partner will ever feel comfortable talking about their day, let alone their feelings or beliefs.” That’s really true. You have to respect the other person and let them know that you care and respect them, or else the relationship could hit some really rocky roads.
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Lack of trust
Trust is a huge thing in a relationship. The more serious a relationship gets, the more trust is important, too. That’s why it can make or break a relationship in those later years. “One of the foundational feelings necessary in a good relationship is a feeling of security,” Verywellmind.com says. “If you lack emotional support or find your partner unreliable, you might lose trust.”
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You rushed into a relationship
We’ve all been there. Everything was so great at first, that you went from a first date to, “Here’s my mom and dad.” Maybe you rushed into a relationship as a rebound, or maybe it was filling a void in your life. Either way, going into a relationship too fast is often a reason people break it off.
A major life event pushed the relationship to the edge
I’ve seen this happen before. Sometimes, it’s life that causes friction in the relationship, not the relationship at all. If someone is going through a really hard time or dealing with a shocking loss, sometimes, they can decide to just step away from everything, including their relationship. It can be anything from a big move to a death. “A big and unexpected life event, like the death of a parent or a sudden job layoff, can shake a relationship to its core,” states Bestlifeonline.com. They add, “And, oftentimes, these life-changing moments will result in other major changes that many relationships struggle to survive.”
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Communication problems
You totally have to be able to communicate with your partner. They can’t read your mind. The people who don’t communicate well are often those who find themselves having trouble in relationships. “Numerous studies have identified communication (or a lack thereof) as one of the top reasons for couples seek therapy, as well as one of the top reasons for break-ups and divorces,” Delraybeachpsychiatrist.com says.
Your partner isn't grateful
Even if you’re been in a relationship for a long time, a simple “thank you so much” means a lot. Always make sure to let your partner know how much you appreciate the little, and big, things. It goes a long way. Not being grateful could even lead to a breakup.
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Financial woes
Arguing about money is really common in relationships. It’s also a big reason why some couples can’t make it work. Maybe your partner loves to spend money on luxuries, and you’re a penny-pinching type. That’s an issue. “Differences over money is one of the top reasons for marital dissolution. But a couple also doesn’t need to be married to have money challenges,” Delraybeachpsychiatrist.com says.
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